I’m not sure what airhead came up with this saying, but he or she obviously has never had the pleasure to experience how my family treats one another! You can be the most self-devoted family member imaginable, and still in the end, you will end up screwed! My experience goes to show that if you are someone in my family with nothing going “wrong” in your life, then you haven’t truly had to stand the pressures of what life holds, than you haven’t had to test how “thick” blood-relations actually are against most of the trials life has to bring.
It seems that whenever something gets hard for any of my family members, the first thing they do is lash out and put blame on the family that they are supposed to love. I am not a naive individual. I always knew the potential for this kind of behavior among my family existed. I just honestly didn’t think that “family” would ever actually treat other family members this way. It is not only heartbreaking but frustrating to see. You go out on a limb for said family members and they do nothing but break your heart at the end of the day.
I recently lost my mother. I have had to watch family fall apart, one by one. It seems that things just seem to be getting worse and worse for everyone left in my family. Those family members that were supposed to be there for each other, are physically in the same zip code, but miles and miles apart emotionally and mentally. I’m just wondering how in the hell did I end up with the shitty end of the deal (excuse my language).
The only thing that I have left to add is the fact that I have a few good friends who have showed me that some friends make are better family than blood-related family will ever be! I don’t necessarily need blood relatives in my life to make it a life worth living. The friends that God sent me are all the family I need right now. Maybe one day, my real family will get their heads out of their asses long enough to come together with me and make things right, but until than, I am going to proceed on with my life with the people I have in my life who actually appreciate my existence.